Tony's Quote: Inside Scandal's Shocking New Season
"Olivia getting on a plane with Jake was like, ‘Just put a bullet in my head already!’" Goldwyn says with a laugh. "It was a great story move from Shonda, but personally, I don’t respect Olivia’s decision. She ran away again, and he’d just lost his son!”
The bold is all she’s ever done. She needs to stop “starting over” and start detangling her life.
Love that he actually said that, because I don’t care how much she needed to find herself, that was a completely bullshit move.
Stop the track. Let me state facts.
Really, corinnestark? A bullshit move from whose perspective and needs? Tony’s point is valid, and of course coming from Fitz’s perspective. Olivia’s point is valid to HER because she thought that’s what she needed to do (I’m not including the Jake part in there). Clearly it’s an extremely problematic way of dealing with one’s problems but I understand the impulse to make a selfish decision under duress. If she’s not taking care of herself, then who is going to do that? Olivia takes care of everyone else. She can’t please everyone all the time AND take care of herself . The fact that her decision was badly timed for Fitz’s needs is clearly the bone of contention. But again, Olivia doesn’t exist for Fitz:
Olivia: "I have to take care of myself. Protect my people. I can’t spend all my time worrying about you. This whole House worries about you—what you want, what you need. It has to be about what I want, what I need." (We Do Not Touch the First Ladies (312))
Fitz nodded his head, said “I know” repeatedly while Olivia stated the above. But tell me a time after that episode where he was able to help facilitate her need to take care of herself, or worry about her? When? Was it when she was embroiled in his personal family drama and ended up getting yelled at? Was it when he asked her to take care of the Andrew and Mellie situation? Was it when she was running around trying to keep him safe from a bomb? Was it during any point that her parents tried to ruin her life for the sake of their own needs? They were both under a lot of stress in the second half of the season for obvious reasons, but for the most part Olivia was helping Fitz deal with all his shit and not the other way around.
The way the accumulation of stress and trauma work in some cases is that people have a breaking point that they reach. We saw Fitz’s breaking point when he crumbled to his knees on the Presidential seal. Olivia’s breaking point was vacating. It’s learned behavior for her, not lazy writing (not in this instance I don’t think). And I accept that this is frustrating as fuck to watch. She has a 22 year pattern instilled in her, facilitated by her own father after her mother’s ‘death’. She has to really consciously try to change that pattern about herself because running from your obviously doesn’t make them go away, but it might make you feel better for a little while.
Now you know I love Fitz. But here is the inconvenient truth: when Fitz is hurt, his own emotions and needs come first. Please see Defiance reveal and most of the back 9 of season 2 for reference. The thing is, as I have explained back then, I COMPLETELY GET THAT. Him being in mourning and needing support (side note, he has support from his Mellie, remaining kids and the whole House) specifically from Olivia is selfish in the same way that Olivia is being selfish by getting the fuck outta dodge for her own sanity. These decisions have consequences on relationships (including friendships and professional alliances). The person who I think Olivia owes it to the most is actually Abby. She had Olivia’s back 100% last season, including recognizing the emotional toll of the whole Remington thing and her not dead mother took from her (even if Olivia tried to keep it G).
As for Olitz, given that they worked on some of their communication issues in S3, I’m really curious to see how they deal with this tension caused by Olivia’s absconding.
Reblogging for your expert analysis Katrina.
One of the things people fail to see is as crazy as her parents are they are truly worried about Olivia. They see her going out of her way to meet the needs of a married man who happens to be President. This is not the kind of situation any parent wants their child to be in. Of course they do take some really bizarre ways of trying to fix the situation and in effect control a grown ass woman. Rowan & Maya see Liv as not caring for herself and blinded by love for a man that does not try to meet her needs. Obviously, their views are skewed in one direction. However, there is some validity to their observations as you pointed out Katrina. Fitz says he understands that Olivia needs to care for herself but, what does he do to help her towards that end? He sees that she is hurting but, can’t offer any solace. People wonder why she finds comfort in Jake. If you think about it objectively, choking aside, who can Liv really talk to about the whole situation? I found Liv’s conversation with Jake about being so much of a patriot that you forget to be a person very revealing. Abby gets some of it but, even she doesn’t know the entire depth of the hurt etc Liv is facing.
I’m excited for season 4 and I hope that going forward Olitz can be more of a partnership where Fitz can meet some of Liv’s needs too and not just in the bedroom.